Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

Adam's Original Sin: Neglecting His Wife

Genesis 3 records the Fall of mankind, and by by association creation.  The story is one of the few essential narratives in all the Bible, on par with the story of David killing Goliath, and death of Jesus.  Even non-Christians who have never opened the pages of the Bible know these stories.  For the purposes of this dialogue, the Fall will be under closer examination. 

A brief synopsis: Adam and Eve, the apex of God's creation, have been created and given the whole of creation as their gift and task.  Yet God has given a single command to not eat one thing, the fruit from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil.  At some point, Adam and Eve are sitting around in the cool of the day, and a sly serpent comes and tempts Eve to eat the forbidden fruit.  She then hands some fruit to Adam, who eats, their "eyes are opened," and they are cast out of the presence of God for their disobedient sin.

Breathe.  Something is striking about this story, though, where is Adam while Eve is being tempted.  In the Hebrew, there is a preposition about Adam indicating that he was right next to his wife while she was being enticed by the shrewd snake.  But despite Adam's close physical proximity, he did not speak up, he didn't even think to ask, "Hey babe, what's going on over there?"

Instead, Adam neglected what was going on with Eve and the serpent.  In truth, Adam abdicated his primary task, which was to care for and protect his wife.  Thus, Adam's first sin, which is different than Eve's, was actually neglecting his wife, Eve.  Notice how this sin carries through the bloodline of Adam to today.  Men should take heed, then, to the sin of Adam and think about it every time we hear the television calling us away from our wives.

Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Marriage: a Beautiful Challenge

Getting married is easy.  Having a healthy, godly, and successful marriage is hard.  It requires emotional, physical, and spiritual commitment from both parties.  More than anything, it is an exercise in sacrifice and service.  Marriages fail for many reasons, but no reason is quite as prevalent or as destructive as selfishness.

Scripture presents a particularly unified account of the selfless love that marriage requires.  Selfless love can be summed up simply: the denial of self to the benefit of the other.  However simple the definition of selfless love may be, living it out is another thing all together.  The key, as in all of life, is to look to Jesus as the ultimate example of selfless love.

In Paul's letter to the church in Philippi, Paul clearly indicates that Jesus, although being in very nature God, condescended to humanity to become the servant of all, and that we should likewise take an attitude and posture that emulates Christ's selflessness (Phil 2:1-10).  The foundation that is Jesus should be not just the root of our salvation, but the example by which we live our lives as well.

The selflessness of Christ is to be an example for the selflessness of marriage, especially for husbands (Eph. 5:25-27).  This is more than a convicting exhortation.  To live with an attitude and posture of selflessness requires devotion and focus to the Lord.  Only when we are focused on the Lord, Jesus, and His example by studying the Word, will we be truly able to live out the selfless love that successful marriage requires.

In reality, there are long-lasting marriages that are not rooted on the firmest of foundations.  However, God desires marriage to be more than mere civil financial partnerships with an emotional component.  Marriage is a divine pairing of two people to a single coupled person (Gen. 2:24).  Selflessness then is one half of the couple holding up the other half and vice versa.

Marriage is a constant battle that pits the pull of selfishness against Christ's example of selflessness.  The truth is that if both partners are living out Christlike selflessness, then they will have no need to be selfish as desires and needs will be fulfilled in and by the partner.  This truly is the beauty of marriage, not to discount how thoroughly challenging it is to implement.  But thanks be to God, who provides the example and the resources to have selfless marriages!

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